Does ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ really contain Sex & Intimacy Secrets that can rekindle the passion, love and connection in your relationship?
Yes! …and here’s why…
OK, so I might live in a quiet part of Australia with the beach at the front and a city at the back that resembles more of a country town than a bustling metropolis! …But even I’ve heard of the latest book sensation ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’!
What about you?
I couldn’t escape it! First my sister-in-law, then my hairdresser, the lady at the local organic market, on Facebook…
So why such fuss over a book? (or 3 actually)
Well, thanks to my man, I now know! You see, he gave me the trilogy set of ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, ‘Fifty Shades Darker’ and ‘Fifty Shades Freed’, as part of my 40th Birthday present, with these instructions…
“Lisa, you’ve got to read this because women are clamoring for this book, and it’s all about love, sex and relationship! (I’m paraphrasing!) And with your expertise and experience, you can read it, find out why they are so obsessed with this book, and help them to get what it is they’re really craving, in their own life and relationships!”
So, off I went!
Fast forward a couple of weeks later….
I’ve finished reading the trilogy, and now I understand why women around the globe have been devouring these books.
You see, ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ Trilogy was written by a normal woman like you and me, Mrs. E L James. She’s a working mother of 2 boys and lives in suburbia in West London, in the UK. She says she wrote most of the books on her blackberry whilst on the tube on the way to work each day, and that the books are basically a compilation of all her greatest (and most intimate) fantasies …all rolled into one!
What she didn’t realize was that her books would become best sellers, creating a HUGE sensation with women from all around the world. But they have! And while they’ve been touted by some as ‘Mommy Porn’, they have also been attributed to the revitalization of many a marriage, as well as an oncoming baby boom!
Even my man joked with me while I was reading them, asking “Who are you going to bed with tonight? …Me or your ‘Shades of Grey’ book?” (Of course he won every time!! ..There’s nothing like the real deal!!)
Now I’ve been fascinated by the mysteries of life, love and intimacy for a long time. In fact, for over twenty years now I’ve been exploring the nature of the self, the dynamic of masculine and feminine energy, spirituality and sexuality and relationship. So I embarked on my ’50 Shades’ journey with great curiosity because I had to find out for myself, what is it about ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ that is seducing women from around the world by the millions?
I really wanted to know…
- “What are women getting from this book that they are NOT experiencing in their daily life? Or in their relationship? And that they’re craving, and may not even be aware of it?”
- “What is the deeper heart yearning, that this book, in an odd way, is fulfilling for the modern woman of today?”
- “What is it about Anastasia that makes her so alluring to her ’50 Shades’ and what is it about that Mr. Grey that is so darn irresistible (to Anastasia and women readers around the world!!!)?”
Well after reading the trilogy, I’ve discovered answers to these questions, and many more!
So I’m going to dedicate a series of upcoming blog posts to “Fifty Shades of Grey’ to share these secrets with you so you can spice up your love life, deepen your sexual satisfaction and help you to experience intimacy in new and powerful ways!!
So let’s get the ball rolling by exploring in this post, a few reasons why the books has taken the world by seductive storm and how YOU can benefit in your own relationship (with yourself or a partner)!!
So to start with, yes, the books contain some pretty steamy sex scenes, but what makes them even more irresistible is that they’re narrated from a woman’s perspective. So as you read about Anastasia Steele’s experiences, you also get to explore within yourself…
- What brings you pleasure? (and it will get you thinking out of the box!)
- Where you sometimes feel insecure in the bedroom?
- What boundaries do you tend to sacrifice for love, and are deal breakers for you?
- What makes you feel delicious, desirable, desired?
These books also give you the opportunity to vicariously experience a much darker flavor of sex and intimacy than the standard ‘vanilla’ you might be experiencing in your own relationship, but WITHOUT the shame and guilt!
I mean, let’s face it, with every women and her cat reading this book, you can enjoy stories of blindfolds, spanking, sex toys, whips, chains, teasing, the ‘Red Room’ of pain and pleasure, risky sexual encounters in elevators and cars, WITHOUT the slightest fear of judgment because most women you know are reading it too!
Even if you do have some shame and guilt associated with such sexual escapades, there is an ‘enlivening’ quality to edgier sex, to darker energy, and truth be known, we all crave that darker flavor at times but unless you’re taught how to experience it with an open heart, in a totally trusting relationship, it can be scary and risky.
The book also explores triumph over hardship as Christian Grey battles his demons of a troubled past, and Anastasia Steele grows from a young, insecure girl to a confident, radiant woman. This gives us hope that despite our flaws, and the baggage we all bring into relationship, that with the right counseling or coaching, there really is hope for healing, that you can still create a healthy, loving, passionate and fulfilling relationship.
…and of course, it’s the ultimate love story!! Page after page, you’re gripped, all the time wondering desperately “Will they end up together, or won’t they? ..Will they? ..won’t they?” (Sleepless in Seattle eat your heart out!)
There are other deeper themes to this book which I’ll explore over the next couple of weeks.
…Not just the whips and chains (though we’ll go there too), but also how to master the dynamic of masculine and feminine and the best way to create intensely, irresistible magnetic attraction between you and a man. Plus, we’ll also delve into your deeper, darker desires for love and sex, and how to fulfill those in a healthy way so you can truly feel totally, deeply and completely CLAIMED by your chosen man!
So post your comments and questions below. I promise to answer them personally.
Tell me did you like, love or hate these books? Why?
What did it bring up for you?
Other questions…..?
So leave a comment now! I can’t wait to hear your thoughts.
Much love,
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