In this video we get real about the source of anger for most women in relationship.
I also share with you a way to explore the power and wisdom that is often hidden underneath your anger, so that you can transform destructive anger into an authentic expression of how you truly feel, in a way that brings you closer together, rather than pushing your man away.
NOTE – MAKE SURE YOU WATCH THE VIDEO AND READ THE ARTICLE BECAUSE I’VE ADDED SOME JUICY EXTRA NOTES BELOW FOR YOU.
So tell me…
How often do you feel angry in relationship? And how does it show up for you?
Are you a volcano that explodes out of nowhere?
Is it bitchy, whiny nagging anger?
Is it controlling anger? Or maybe passive aggressive anger?
Getting real with your anger is essential if you want to:
- Stop freaking your man out, or pushing him away
- Feel free to express how you really feel without worrying that you’ll be destructive
- Tap into the wisdom and power that lies beneath
- Have a healthy and fulfilling relationship without the power struggles.
So, let’s take an honest look at what anger looks like for YOU in relationship at the moment.
Breath with this thought for a moment…
When you dive into the truth about your anger, you empower yourself like never before!
There are essentially 2 reasons why women get angry in relationship.
Number One: Your man is being a jerk, or is in some way completely out of integrity. That’s when you just want to cut his head off, scratch his eyes out….Tell him like it is. (ringing any belles!?)
Number Two: He’s hurt you, but you didn’t express the hurt you feel in the moment. This then quickly morphs into anger, resentment, frustration and so on.
There are many reason you might not express your hurt. Maybe you are so numb to how you feel these days that you didn’t even realize you felt hurt. Maybe you were told not to cry as a young girl, or not to be ‘silly’….
(I can’t tell you how many women I’ve worked with who have said to me ‘I’m sorry, I don’t know why I’m crying. I’m just being silly’…when they’ve cried in a coaching session or a workshop.
It’s genuinely alarming!
Who told you not to cry? When will you stop taking their poor advice?!
When will YOU be OK to feel and express fully your hurt, and any other feelings that come up?
Now’s the time honey! Truly. Now’s the time.
Let’s look at what most women do when they cry and see if you can relate:
- Close their eyes
- Cover their face with hands
- Clamp breathe down
- Try to breathe about (a LOT) to stop the sobs and stem the tears
- Wipe away the tears
- Turn away
They try to hide that they’re crying.
Here’s the truth about hurt.
It takes real courage and vulnerability to allow the tears to fall, to hold your man’s gaze, to NOT turn away…to express how you feel. It’s a risk.
And you might need some practice.
But the rewards are sooo worth it.
When you express how you really feel with an open heart, your man will naturally feel drawn to you.
In fact, when you express how you really feel with an open heart, you’re actually INVITING him in. Into your feminine fullness. Into your heart.
I mean that’s what you really want right?
You want to feel your man’s deepest presence. You want him to really BE with you, and with how you feel.
So you’ve got to learn how to express how you feel as an INVITATION, otherwise you’ll end up pushing him away.
So let’s get practical.
If it’s difficult for you to express hurt openly, then start with the mirror.
Don’t groan. Just do it.
I promise the rewards are profound, for you and your relationship.
FEMININE PRACTICE:
Take some quiet time with a mirror. Feel a place of hurt within you. Feel deep into your belly, or even deeper into your inner thighs and vagina.
Feel the hurt through your lower body. All the while maintain eye gaze with yourself in the mirror. Keep your breath full, front surface of the body soft and receptive. Resist the temptation to wipe the tears way, or turn away or clamp your breath down.
Just BE with yourself while you cry.
LOVE yourself while you cry.
Hold space for yourself like you’d like your man to.
Then the next time you feel hurt by your man, express it!
NOT to manipulate him and ‘get’ something. But to be true and real to what is moving through you in the moment. Because that’s what allows the greatest flow of love between you.
Anything less just causes hidden tension in your relationship and comes out in destructive ways.
When you dump anger on him after the fact, or you silently rage while you slam cupboard doors and crash pots and pans in the kitchen, he won’t know what to do with that.
It’s confusing for a man. He doesn’t know why you’re so angry because he didn’t put the bins out.
He doesn’t realise it’s got NOTHING to do with the bins!
So do this practice. And then bring the juicy fruits of your practice to your man. And just watch what happens.
If you know that you have a habit of suppressing how feel, or you’re just not experiencing the depth of connection, passion or love that you really want in relationship.
Or if you’re feeling LESS THAN sensually alive in your body, closed off in your heart and unfulfilled, then I recommend you get in touch with me to day.
Women from around the world have used this step by step program to let go of what was holding them back and create the life, love and intimacy they’ve always wanted.
It’s not a magic pill.
It’s a real step by step program that requires you do listen, go within, explore the material in relation to YOU!
Ohhhh but it’s sooo worthwhile!
I created it so that you can explore, empower and embody the juice and truth of who you are as a woman in relationship.
So you know how to harness the powerful dynamic of masculine and feminine energy within you and your relationship to keep the connection and passion alive. And let go of all the ways you hold back in relationship, so you can feel sensually alive, authentically empowered and deeply fulfilled.
Click here to contact me for help.
So what about you? How do you feel about expressing your hurt? How does anger show up for you in relationship?
I’d love to hear you questions and comment so please leave them below and I promise to answer them personally. We have a global community of beautiful women who are daring to live a soul satisfied life so you’ll be in really good company.
Also, please be sure to share this post with your women friends because in empowering others you also empower yourself!
Meantime, keep shining!
Lisa
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